Check out GQ’s interview with Lizzy at Sundance:
GQ: Is this your first Sundance?
Lizzy Caplan: No, I was here two years ago for a short film that I was in, but I produced it also. It’s called Successful Alcoholics.
GQ: But it’s still pretty surreal, right?
Lizzy Caplan: Oh, yeah. It’s a very different coming with a short film, because it shows in a shorts program as opposed to your own premiere, and then to have two films here this year is pretty insane. Luckily they’re in separate categories so I’m getting to experience the premiere and also the competition vibe, but yeah, it’s overwhelming. I’m tired.
GQ: It’s that time where everyone forgets what day it is.
Lizzy Caplan: Oh, totally. If I wasn’t leaving today, I’d have no idea what day it is. I’m just waiting for people to tell me where to go and for how long for so many days in a row. I just need to go home and exercise my independence for half a day or something.
GQ: What is it like having this instantaneous feedback on your movies? I mean, even beyond buzz on the shuttle bus or in the bathrooms afterwards, you’ve got people leaving the screenings and Tweeting things immediately.
Lizzy Caplan: Yeah. Yeah. It’s super intense. I’m not on Twitter, but I’ve been checking it, not having an account, and it’s—I mean, I guess there’s nothing to do about it but accept that’s the way it is now. Otherwise, you’ll drive yourself crazy.
I shot Save the Date in the summer and Bachelorette late summer, and they turned them around so quickly and we’re seeing them now, and so that part of the instantaneous, the immediate gratification, it feels more like television than film, so that I like. The Tweeting business, that’s a little too instant for my liking. But then again, you get to hear what people are thinking—like, people, lots of people, you get to hear their individual opinions as opposed to just a reviewer or critic.
GQ: Obviously, you can’t get away from the fact that the themes of both your movies at Sundance are commitment, fear of commitment, fear of growing up, stuff like that. Are you at that stage where everyone starts getting married?
Lizzy Caplan: Well, I was born and raised in Los Angeles, and we don’t get married there. [laughs] Not ’til way later, for the most part. I have a couple friends from growing up who are married, but the vast majority of us are not. I think it’s similar in New York, or maybe it’s just similar in this business. The way that I see marriage is different than the way my sister sees marriage or my brother, even though I guess they were raised in LA also, but I think there’s something about this business that you can stay sort of young and immature for longer than maybe you should. I think the themes are just going to start popping up more and more as I approach 30, because that’s just a very appropriate milestone to base a story around.
GQ: It’s a big one. It kind of socks you in the face for a few years.
Lizzy Caplan: Does it?
Lizzy Caplan: Uh-oh.
GQ: It’s fun. It gets better after that.
Lizzy Caplan: I know Mike Mohan, the director, has talked about this in a couple of interviews. I feel like Save the Date is a kind of anti-marriage movie, like the happy ending for Alison [Brie] and Martin [Starr] is that they call off the wedding, which is not to say they won’t be together and get married down the line; I’m sure they will. But it seems like the happy ending comes with calling off your wedding, if you really boil it down and simplify it. But Mike Mohan, the writer and director, is happily married for multiple years, so he does believe in it. And both of our producers who were on set everyday, they’re both married and dig it, but I find when I talk to people who are married, I always ask, “Do you like it? Are you still having fun with this person?” And clearly it’s a different answer for everybody, but the institution of marriage, the fact that we still take it as seriously as we do when it seems kind of like an antiquated way of thinking, is ridiculous. Like, the amount of pressure, I’m sure, when you hit 30, 35, as a woman… And I’m not even anti-marriage, I’m not. I probably will get married; half the time it’s a very exciting idea to me, the other half the time, it’s [like], why? Who cares? As soon as you get married, you’re closer to getting divorced.
GQ: The message of both movies is “Do your thing” and “Fuck everyone else.” Which I like.
Lizzy Caplan: I do too. So much easier said than done, because you really do get that pressure. I felt lucky that I had kind of avoided it. My family’s very chill about that stuff. They’re not asking questions about if and when I’m gonna get married, even though both of my siblings are. My sister got married a few years ago, and I know a lot of girls, when they go to their sister’s weddings, the family just descends upon them and starts asking them those questions. People, for the most part, leave me alone, but I also feel that the timer’s about to expire and I’m going to be getting that question quite often, and it’ll just make me probably not want to do it. But whatever. We’ll see.
And the thing is, when you have a child with somebody, that, to me, is a true bond for life. Way more so than a wedding or just a marriage. As soon as you have a kid, then you’re really stuck. [laughs]
GQ: What I thought was really cool about Save the Date was that no one’s villainized. Even Sarah’s new boyfriend Jonathan, everyone’s like, “Yeah, he’s a good guy. I hate to say it.” It’s so nice, in a story about love and how complicated it is.
Lizzy Caplan: Totally. I think that all of the characters are recognizable from a lot of people’s lives. I hope that they are. And I do think that [in] life, minus the occasional psychopath here and there, everybody truly is just doing the best that they can, and a lot of times, doing the best that you can hurts other people’s feelings, and it’s unavoidable. I do like the idea of the nice guy kind of getting shit on, because that is what happens. I mean, he is so loving, and I know personally, in my past, if guys have been so nice to me—nice is the wrong word—anything I wanted, they treated, and put me on a pedestal and all that, I do get sort of bored with that and want to push them away. I don’t think it’s as cliché—it’s certainly not for me—as like, “I like guys who are assholes to me.” Definitely not. But that pure, sweet niceness, I don’t know, I liked seeing in a movie that that’s not really working out for him trying to get this girl.
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